For Whānau & Allies
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It can be hard being a rainbow, takatāpui or intersex young person in Aotearoa.
If you have a rainbow young person or loved one in your life, you may wish to learn more about their identities and get advice on how to support them.
We can direct you to educational resources and support groups for whānau and allies embarking on these learning journeys.
Our Resources
More Than Four
A video resource from InsideOUT, exploring the identities and experiences of and beyond ‘LGBT’ identities.
Hearing from a wide range of people within the rainbow community: asexual, aromantic, intersex, non-binary, bisexual, pansexual, transgender, takatāpui, fa’afafine, akava’ine, queer parents and people who identify as both Māori, Pasifika or Asian and queer.
Te Ao Takatāpui
Te Ao Takatāpui is a video documentary series from InsideOUT Kōaro celebrating and sharing the stories and perspectives of takatāpui community members.
All episodes available to watch on our youtube channel.
Rainbow rangatahi at secondary schools in Aotearoa
Rainbow young people share their reflections and experiences of being secondary school students in Aotearoa.
Available to watch online.
Rainbow tamariki and whānau at primary/intermediate schools
Listen to the voices of rainbow tamariki and whānau at primary and intermediate schools in Aotearoa.
Available to watch online.
Pronouns
We have created a helpful video resource on using and respecting pronouns. Sharing your pronouns and asking for someone else’s is an easy way to signal to the person you’re talking to that you aren’t assuming what their gender identity is or how they wish to be referred to.
Be There
A collaborative project between InsideOUT Kōaro & rainbow organisations across Aotearoa to provide guidance and resources for parents, family and whānau of rainbow young people.
Supporting Aotearoa’s Rainbow People (Mental Health Resource)
Rainbow people in New Zealand face a range of complex issues, and mental health professionals don’t always receive specific training about their needs and experiences.
This guide is for anyone who provides mental health support in Aotearoa, including (but not limited to) counsellors, psychologists, psychiatrists, psychotherapists, tohunga (Māori healers), social workers, mental health nurses, and GPs. It will also be helpful for youth workers, group facilitators, and peer supporters.
Storm Clouds and Rainbows
Storm Clouds and Rainbows – The Journey of Parenting a Transgender Child offers insights from a parent perspective on how best to support a transgender child.
This resource is based on international research and interviews with parents in Aotearoa from different social and cultural backgrounds, who were asked to reflect on their experience of raising a transgender child.
Visit be-there.nz for more information.
OUT ON THE SHELVES
Out on the Shelves is an online resource that lists books from around the world with rainbow themes and characters. It aims to support all rainbow young people to find stories that represent their identities in positive and affirming ways.
Posters
A collection of rainbow posters from InsideOUT Kōaro and other rainbow organisations across Aotearoa that can be downloaded and printed for free.
Other Resources
Help! Is My Child Transgender?
A digital resource of ideas and suggestions for parents of trans, non-binary and gender-questioning young people created by Gender Minorities Aotearoa.
Listening to and supporting trans and non-binary young people
A factsheet created by Counting Ourselves and Te Ngākau Kahukura that explains what the Counting Ourselves Survey (2018) tells us about listening to and supporting trans and non-binary young people in Aotearoa.
Families in TRANSition
Families In TRANSition: A Resource Guide for Parents of Trans Youth (2020) is a Canadian resource written and published by CTYS (Central Toronto Youth Services). It summarizes the experiences, strategies, and successes of a working group of community consultants – researchers, counsellors, parents, advocates as well as trans youth themselves. It provides the stories of parents and youth along with practical and sensitive parent-to-parent and professional therapeutic advice.
Helpful Links and Support
If you are looking for further information or support, we have compiled a comprehensive list of organisations and groups that work with whānau trying to support their rainbow loved ones.
National Resources & Organisations
RainbowYOUTH
National organisation based in Tāmaki Makaurau/Auckland providing peer support, information and resources for rainbow young people.
OutLine
Confidential, free, all-ages phone support line answered by trained rainbow volunteers every evening from 6pm – 9pm (0800 688 5463).
OutLine also offers paid in-person and video rainbow specialist counselling as well as an Auckland-based trans and non-binary peer support service. Check out their resource for families.
Gender Minorities Aotearoa
A Wellington-based advocacy organisation run by and for transgender people (including binary, non-binary, intersex, and irawhiti takatāpui).
You can find a range of resources, information and research on transitioning and accessing gender affirming healthcare on their website.
They also offer one-to-one peer support to transgender people of all ages, cultures, and backgrounds.
Intersex Aotearoa (ITANZ)
Intersex-led education, lobbying, advocacy and peer support around Aotearoa welcoming all people with intersex variations, as well as their whānau and friends.
Keep up with Intersex Aotearoa on Facebook
LAGANZ
Lesbian and Gay Archives of NZ | Te Pūranga Takatāpui o Aotearoa.
LAGANZ collects, preserves and makes available for research the records and personal papers of LGBTTIFQ people and organisations in New Zealand.
The Archives are owned by a Trust and housed in the Alexander Turnbull Library of the National Library of New Zealand, Wellington.
TAKATĀPUI.NZ
A resource hub for takatāpui people, their whānau and communities.
Learn about the history of the term ‘takatāpui’ as well as the key elements that make up takatāpui identity. Access stories and information about identity, wellbeing and suicide prevention
Te Ngākau Kahukura
Te Ngākau Kahukura is a partnership with rainbow communities held within the organisational structure of Ara Taiohi.
They aim to make communities, environments and systems more safe and inclusive for rainbow people by working strategically with key leverage points including funders, political decision makers, researchers, training providers, sector bodies and large agencies that provide health and social services.
PATHA
The Professional Association for Transgender Health Aotearoa (PATHA) is an interdisciplinary professional organisation working to promote the health, wellbeing and rights of transgender people.
They ave over 200 members who work professionally for transgender health in clinical, academic, community, legal and other settings.
Naming New Zealand
Naming New Zealand is an initiative to inform, support and financially assist queer, gender diverse, takatāpui and intersex young people to update their identity documents to correctly reflect their identities.
Transgender and Intersex NZ
A Facebook group providing a supportive social environment and a Safer Space* for gender and sex minorities to ask for and share information. It is also available for partners, parents, whānau, friends, and supportive others to find information and to ask questions.
NZ Parents of Transgender & Gender Diverse Children
A website made by and for parents, caregivers and whānau of trans and gender diverse children in Aotearoa NZ.
NZPOTC provides advocacy and peer support and facilities families’ access to good quality information, research, guidance, and relevant support services.
Their support group includes parents, guardians and caregivers of all ages, ethncities and personal and professional backgrounds.
To join, visit their Portal Facebook Group.
FreedHearts Aotearoa NZ
A facebook support group for those parents who have lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, intersex or questioning children of any age and would like to find information and support in order to affirm and support their children.
Requirements for membership are that you love and support your children, and that you’re prepared to maintain privacy and confidentiality with the group.
To join, visit their Portal Facebook Group.
Regional Organisations & Groups
F'INE Pasifika Aotearoa Trust
F’INE is a Pacific LGBTQI+ / MVPFAFF+ focused Charitable Trust that provides Whānau Ora navigational services to Pacific Rainbow/MVPFAFF+ people and their families in the wider Tāmaki Makaurau region.
Follow them on instagram.
Gender Dynamix Aotearoa
Gender Dynamix is a clinical and social organisation meeting the mental health service needs of the transgender and nonbinary community of the Bay of Plenty.
They offer individual mental health support, gender exploration, peer-driven group therapy support, peer support, whānau support, community and provider education, and more.
Rainbow Hub Waikato
Rainbow Hub Waikato is a non-profit organisation that creates spaces and works alongside communities to embrace, celebrate, and support diversity and identity, where all people thrive and feel empowered to be themselves.
They facilitate a number of peer support spaces and events throughout the Waikato, including spaces for youth, families, and interest-based hobbies.
Nevertheless
Nevertheless is a Māori, Pasifika and Takatāpui non profit organisation that sells apparell and advocates for equitable mental health outcomes.
Nevertheless also runs Manioro, an annual gathering for LGBTQIA+, Takatāpui, MVPFAFF+, Pasifika Rainbow, Rainbow+ people to come together with whānau and friends to be educated, uplifted and inspired through storytelling, creative wānanga and the celebration of Polynesian culture.
This kaupapa has also seen the launch of the Manioro Rainbow Hub Hawkes Bay
Pride Whanganui
Pride Whanganui is a charity striving to make Whanganui more inclusive of the LGBTTQIA+ community. They are working to establish more resources, create better health care processes, and encourage regular events.
Ngā Uri o Whiti Te Rā Mai Le Moana Trust
First established in 2013 as a Māori Performing Arts/Kapa Haka group, Ngā Uri o Whiti Te Rā Mai Le Moana Trust is a charitable organisation that works to generate community inclusion for Pasifika and Māori in Porirua and the wider Wellington region.
The trust provides programming through a Hāpori Fale (Youth Hub) and is dedicated to providing a safe environment for Pacific rainbow youth. They also provide assistance to other organisations that work with Pacific rainbow people of all ages.
Te Ngākau Kahukura o Te Awakairangi
A rainbow organisation based in the Hutt-Valley opening a service and youth hub space in 2023.
Keep up to date with them on Facebook.
Q Youth
Q-Youth is a by-youth, for-youth charitable organisation based in Nelson. It is dedicated to making the Nelson region a safe place to grow up LGBTQIA+.
They offer two weekly youth groups for different ages as well as support, advocacy and information for queer and trans youth, their friends, whānau and wider communities.
Qtopia
Qtopia provides support for rainbow young people in Ōtautahi Christchurch and the wider Waitaha Canterbury area.
They offer youth groups, whānau support and resources as well as volunteering opportunities, from group facilitation to organising social events.
Moana Vā
Support Lines
OutLine
Confidential, free, all-ages phone support line answered by trained rainbow volunteers every evening from 6pm – 9pm (0800 688 5463).
OutLine also offers paid in-person and video rainbow specialist counselling as well as an Auckland-based trans and non-binary peer support service. Check out their resource for families.
YouthLine
Youthline is a “with youth, for youth” organisation that supports young people throughout Aotearoa New Zealand.
Youthline offers a free Helpline service (text, phone, webchat & email), free face-to-face counselling services, youth mentoring, programmes in schools and communities to help people grow and develop.
Free call 0800 376 633 | Free text 234
1737
1737, need to talk?’ is New Zealand’s national mental health & addictions helpline number.
Free call or free text 1737 any time, 24 hours a day.
You’ll get to talk to (or text with) a trained counsellor or talk to a peer support worker who can help support you or a loved one/family member you’re concerned about.
Sexual Health Services
Burnett Foundation
Burnett Foundation Aotearoa (formerly New Zealand AIDS Foundation & Ending HIV NZ) is a sex-positive public health organisation working to prevent HIV transmission, reduce stigma and support those living with HIV.
Burnett Foundation has service centres in Tāmaki Makaurau Auckland, Te Whanganui-a-Tara Wellington and Ōtautahi Christchurch. They provide HIV and STI testing, counselling, group support and other services at these centres and remotely for people anywhere in Aotearoa New Zealand.
Family Planning NZ
Family Planning clinics can help with contraception, STI testing and treatment, cervical screening, pregnancy testing, abortion advice, PMS, menopause, HPV vaccinations, and advice for other sexual and reproductive health issues including what to do if you’ve had unprotected sex.
Their services are confidential and non-judgemental and for people of any age, gender, sexual orientation or nationality. They are free for New Zealand citizens/residents under the age of 22.
DECIDE.org.nz
DECIDE.org.nz is a website and telehealth service that provides information about abortion services and abortion care in Aotearoa New Zealand.
Most abortion services are free for most New Zealand citizens and residents.
Get Involved!
Opportunities for allies
If you aren’t a member of rainbow, takatāpui or MVPFAFF+ communities but want to support our mahi, there are lots of ways you can do so! We welcome support from individuals, whānau, groups, workplaces, clubs, community organisations, schools and businesses.
Check out our Donate or Fundraise page to learn more!
In addition to donating or fundraising, you can also support InsideOUT by ordering, sharing or displaying our resources, or getting a training from us to ensure that your workplace is abiding by best practice when it comes to rainbow inclusion.